#128 Coming back from your darkest day with Andy Coley
Content Warning: This episode mentions attempted suicide and despair.
“If you put me back 13 years ago when I was going to run my car into a tree I never ever would have believed that this life I have right now is possible. I would have called you absolutely fucking bonkers to ever thought that was possible." Andy Coley
In today's episode, we have Andy Coley, who shares his story of his “epic life fail” as Life took over, ‘wrong’ decisions, foggy thinking, where everything felt out of control in the pursuit of being in full control. Andy shares the moment he felt like there was only one way out of it, and the moment he realised there was a better way.
We talk about how our inner voice can beat ourselves up, create unwanted noise, the constant chatter and how clarity comes in amongst the confusion. Andy shares how he found a new path through coaching and neuro linguistic programming (NLP), but it wasn't without the ups and downs of navigating a transformative journey.
Andy shares how being in control is sometimes more about letting go, and knowing you can trust yourself, rather than keeping a tight grip that is suppressing your progress.
“Don’t let life happen to you, be in control, but not so tight it hinders”
Here are the headlines:
05:35 Struggled with suicidal thoughts, found hope and support.
16:02 Struggling business turned around through coaching and NLP.
18:32 Discussing the importance of therapy and coaching.
30:18 Extensive NLP training business, coaching and team development.
40:07 Seek and embrace support in tough times.
48:11 Take control of your life, make changes.
Andy’s Another Door go-tos
The things that helped Andy navigate change.
Books: “NLP at Work”, by Sue Knight
Music: “Times Like These.” Foo Fighters
The one piece of advice:
“Get support and perspective. Find someone who's a good listener, not a good teller. Or journal, get it out of your head…just write it. Set your intentions for your future. Your unconscious mind needs some direction. What is it you'd love to have happen? What would you like it to be like in a year's time from where you are right now? Don’t be afraid to have bold goals for yourself. They are a signal to yourself that you mean it”.
About Andy Coley
Andy is an award-winning TEDx speaker (he won TEDx speaker of the year last year) and is also an executive coach and leadership development trainer who works with major plc businesses, the NHS and organisations such as Meta, The Cabinet Office and a lot within the computer games industry.
He's currently working on a leadership development book which is due to hit the shelves in October 2024.
https://www.gamestudiotraining.com
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